I INVITE PARENTS TO LISTEN TOGETHER!
- Article source: montessoriparenting.org
- Translation: Ms. Ha My – Teacher of Aurora Montessori preschool
- Recorded by: Ms. Ha My – Montessori Teacher (certified as an International Montessori Teacher by IMC&VMC).
Can each of us become a Montessori parent and is it possible?
Thousands of questions are asked before we begin to do something, for example, “Can becoming a Montessori parent balance busy lives, complicated schedules, and limited budgets? Are the different mechanisms and resources of each family?”, “How to bring Montessori home?”, “How to become a mindful parent?”,…The main time every parent works Mother asked questions to herself, Montessori has been creeping into the minds of parents and that time is also the source of strong transformations within parents to truly and fully accompany their children. full of enjoyment.
Is it true that when parents begin to explore and explore the Montessori method for their families, sooner or later we are likely to fall into the infamous “Pinterest Trap”. Through support tools from the Internet or online parent meetings, we are overwhelmed by a variety of educational activities, handmade learning materials, and works of art. and brilliant crafts,… are found that we more or less think or know for sure that we will not do because of lack of time, energy and resources, or even motivation. After a while, it seemed like if we wanted to become Montessori parents, we needed to stay home, organize a workshop with all the tools, spend every night preparing materials, and definitely be a member. diamonds from craft stores or bookstores… Parents here somewhere have encountered the above things, right?
Today, we are here to talk about the above concerns. And most clearly, surely and strongly, we can believe: No, we do not do that. Activity trays, materials, crafts, handouts, language cards, and activity stations may all be adorable and useful, but they do not define Montessori parenting.
There are many ways to effectively parent, and none of them dictate that Montessori parenting must be superficial; After all, one of the greatest strengths of this approach is that Montessori adapts to lifestyles and cultures around the world, not the other way around.
What makes a Montessori parent?
For better or worse, there is no activity or item to buy (or do) that can create Montessori for our families. One can possess an entire curriculum of the most materialistic implications without ever taking a step closer to philosophy. Instead, the “secret” lies in how we live, experience, interact, and communicate with our children. To become a “Montessori Parent,” there are a few points worth noting:
Respect your child for who he or she is and who he or she will become. You may be young, naive and inexperienced, but at the same time you are a fully realized human being, the main difference is that compared to adults you have a lot of potential that we sometimes ignore. I forget that my current form and current abilities will change a lot in the years to come. They deserve the same respect and dignity as anyone else, and they especially deserve it from you. In particular, courtesy and politeness are not only things you need to learn but must also be expanded to be able to live your life in the most peaceful way.
Sharing our homes and lives with our children, in other words, allowing them to participate to the best of their ability. There is a universal human need to have a real and meaningful role in our communities, to see our differences and the impact we have on our surroundings, and children are no different in terms of This. We can start with daily activities such as preparing ingredients and cooking. prepare the dinner table, wash up, clean the house, sweep the floor, wipe the table, etc. The house is the cradle that nourishes the child’s soul, nurtures his love and it is where he connects most fully. Ask if a child can participate and devote his or her efforts to his or her home, will that child really love this life, will that child enjoy every moment of being the main owner? your throne and your life? That picture, that beautiful prospect, surely every parent here wants to touch it, right? That is completely possible if we give children not only love but also absolute trust.
Allow your child to be themselves and be themselves. Independence is the magic word of the Montessori philosophy and it applies to every aspect of life, not just practical skills. Thinking independently, working, choosing activities – a child needs to experience all of that. Let them be alone, immersed in their own work and play without interruption; to overcome your own challenges, explore your ideas and interests, and even enjoy your own magical world. Montessori is not about “actively educating” or optimizing your child’s every waking moment – far from it, really!
Let’s get to know our children so we can be there for them when they really need us. We will not know what the future will be like, we are only living and present in the present moment, and we cannot predict or plan for our children’s difficulties or changes in them. We – conscious parents can only put ourselves in the situation of “When that happens, what should we do?” Only when we understand what we want, what our child’s needs are, and how they are feeling, accompanying our child is extremely gentle and can be compared to breathing. Make an effort to understand and respect your child’s development at any given time. There is no better way to get to know your child than through observation, both directly and indirectly.
